Every since the issue with Tiger Woods has been in the press I have been thinking a lot about just the subject of text messaging, some of the conversations that take place, and the effects of responding to a text message. Last Friday (12/4) I had planned on writing my thoughts about men and some of us are caught up in that same situation. I had also planned to talk about some of my own experiences but never got the chance due to the workload.

Well I wish I would have taken the time to because this past Saturday (12/5) I got “Tiger Wooded” myself. I had been in the house the majority of the day and was actually chillin with my oldest son when I got a text message from a young lady. This young lady happened to be a friend of the families and we had ran into each other 2 months ago when I was on my way into work. We did exchange numbers but never really touched base or contacted each other after that.

So here it is 7:30pm and I get this text from her asking me to come pick her up because she wanted to meet up. My first response was I was not driving and I did not have any money. Her response back was she wanted to hook up and possibly have sex…and the wrong head kicked in and I of course said I was on my way.

Now before I continue I KNOW I WAS WRONG AND I AM PAYING FOR IT and I am sharing this because being involved in this kind of situation can be very damaging.

I lied to my wife and said I was going to watch a boxing match with my brother and one of his friends and left. While I waited for the bus something was telling me to turn around and go back home and for a second I started to but didn’t move. Now why would I lie and head out the door like that…In all honesty the wrong head spoke and I listened. I did not weigh anything I just reacted.

During that time there where quite a few explicit texts and pictures exchanged and the last message was hurry up. I got to the designated meeting place and was not greeted by her but I was greeted by her man. This was not a great position or spot to be in. He in turn had my wife on the phone and I had no idea what was said prior to my arrival.

Shit stopped right there so nothing else occurred. So after listening to him scream like a banshee I called my brother and asked him to come pick me up because I had been setup. There were a few threats made and then my brother and his boy showed up and we left. During the ride I could not believe I made that decision especially in light of what just happened top T-Dub. There was truly a lesson to be learned from his mistake but I never thought it would happen to me. That is what I get for thinking.

Even though nothing physical took place nor has ever taken place I responsibility for my actions responding the way I did to the text messages that I thought came from this lady. I have mulled over and over this. I am thankful nothing physical happened because that would have really made things worse but the mere action of the exchange was bad within itself. I will not lie when I say I wish I could turn time back to the initial point but I can’t.

I can only process where I am in all of this not that it has happened. I also take the hit for being stupid enough to believe this young lady would even talk to me in the manner the texts were. I have made many mistakes in this marriage and I can’t blame my wife for being pass pissed at me for this. My heart is really heavy because I knew better but didn’t follow my gut and take my ass home like I should have done.

I had stated in the last video it was not worth losing your marriage and home for something like this. And look at me…what a freakin example huh??? Well I can only continue to pray for forgiveness and learn the valuable lesson that is to be learned from this. Since this incident my wife has taken the wedding rings off. In one way I kinda feel like I deserve it but in another way it shows me where she stands. Tired of my bullshit okay I can except that. Not that it means anything or is a justification for my actions but it has been a while since anything like this has occurred. Yes I have cheated before and I ultimately came clean.

I have way much more to share because this is one of the stresses both men & woman face. Especially if you really want to be in a relationship or marriage that works. I can only continue to pray and wish that I will be that great mate before I die. I can only continue to hope & pray that she will forgive me and we will find some form of peaceful resolution.

So to any guy or lady who is involved in a situation where texting could possibly damage your relationship, I say to you stop while you are ahead because just like me it can happen to you too.

Tiger (T-Dub) Woods I could be pissed at you for what happened but like I said in the previous post I stand right beside you because it just goes to show none of us are immune from the chances of having the same thing happen to us.